Are there etiquette rules around when a bridal shower should be held compared to the wedding date?
I live in California and our wedding is taking place here next March. I moved here from Connecticut a few years back and so I still have a lot of friends/ family on the east coast. I made plans to fly back in October for a visit and suggested that we have a simple bridal shower at that time for the east coast people. I have a friend throwing me a shower here in CA but I know it would be too much money to have friends/family fly out for a bridal shower and then a wedding a few months after. My mom says that 5 months before the wedding is still too far in advance and that I look selfish. She is suggesting that we have one on Dec 27, two days after Christmas!!! I think that is a horrible time since people are strapped for cash, the weather is bad, it's high travel time and people want to spend time wtih their family and friends. She disagrees and thinks it's the perfect time. Are there any rules as to when a shower should/shouldn't be held? Any advice/thoughts/facts would be great!
A wedding shower should be scheduled at least four to eight weeks before the wedding NOT the week of the wedding.
Why? Because the Bride . . her family members . . and her wedding party members have too many things to do the week of the wedding PLUS it is not fair or thoughtful or kind asking friends, family members, and wedding party members to buy TWO gifts in one week.
True story . . A Maid of Honor scheduled a bridal shower the morning of the wedding rehearsal because she lived out of town and this was the only time she could host it. So how many people attended the shower? Less than ten.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
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